Parenting the Only Child – Debunking the Myths

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Parenting styles differ greatly around the world, and parenting an only child can be significantly different from parenting two or more children. A popular myth about the only child is that the child will be selfish. The truth is most children at a certain age will seem selfish because in their own minds, everything revolves around them. Positive parenting helps alleviates this self-centeredness over time by teaching the value of sharing.

 

It may seem as if the only child is selfish because the parents have only one child to focus on. As such these children may develop a sense that everyone should give them total attention.  However, good parenting skills will enable the child to realize early on not to treat attention as a right.

Some people hold the view that the only child is generally very bossy. Again this attitude results not so much from being the sole child, but from the parenting received. In fact, many children with siblings are bossy as well. Good parenting will help children to learn to temper their attitudes.

When it comes to an only child, the tendency to feel alone or to become loners can be greater. This is true for children anywhere in the world. Parents should make every effort to provide companionship for their child. They should be allowed to spend time with cousins and other children to develop relationships.

While the style used for parenting an only child may be different than that used for two or more kids, the outcome is generally the same. The values children learn as they grow are those instilled by their parents and their environment.

 

Children Around The World

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There are many laws in place to protect children, and in America this was taken very seriously during the Industrial Revolution era. During this time children were treated like adults working in factories, and being exploited. Today, there are child labor laws preventing the abuse of children in a workplace, and limiting what roles they can have in a work place, such as age limits when a child can begin work. This was a vital step in protecting children, and bringing awareness globally that children needed to be sheltered from adults that would give no concern to their well-being.

The Steps That Made A Difference

Child labor laws brought an end to the child labor abuse that was occurring in large cities when the United States was entering into a time of change. Many children were injured, abused, or killed during this time with no regard to their age, family, or resulting quality of life. Organizations, like today’s DFPS, Department of Family and Protective Services, strives to ensure that children are not exploited.

There have also been safeguards to protect children internationally as well, yet many people in foreign countries refuse to acknowledge the rules set in place to protect children. As parents, it is important to shelter children from the harsh realities of child labor, but some families have not choice but to have their children go to work at the age of six, seven, or younger. This is especially true of families in Indonesia, China, and other parts of the globe, where child labor thrives and is very much a normal part of life.

Parenting a child that is adopted

You often hear parents of adopted children say they fell in love the minute they saw the picture of their child. This may be true for you or it may not. Seeing a picture does not necessarily show what they child is going to bring to your home. This is not to say that you do not love that child or that you are not thankful for that child.

The process of adoption is a stressful one and also an emotional one.When that child finally comes to your home and your adoption process is finally over you hope that your home can go back to normal. Your child is going to be in a strange environment so this makes getting back to normal difficult. If the adopted child does not speak or understand your language this makes it a little more difficult to bond with them. The process will actually be quicker than you think if you show them the proper expressions of love through your tone of voice and by your touch. You should take advice from others you know that are in a similar situation or join a support group for adoptive parents.

A professional counselor may be needed to seek advice from.Parenting a child is difficult but parenting a adopted child has another set of issues to deal with. Some of these issues will go away with time others will not. Some of these issues may require some help in dealing with them. To help in the bonding process do anything that is necessary to get it to move forward.